Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Hope at the End of a Tunnel...

I have started and restarted this post 4 times now.

You know when something horrific and life changing happens in your life? Or maybe to someone else that you are close to and it has a direct impact on you? And for the million times we ask why me? or why now? We never get an answer. Because honestly, there is no answer. It just happened. And that has to be good enough. Forever.

I don't believe that to be totally true though. I believe we take our life experiences and we use them to help others. We take our moments of despair, our triumphs, the moments of happiness, the times of the unknown in our lives and the lessons learned throughout and how we got to where we are today and we expand that out into the world. 

Because here's the thing: It's HOPE for the next person. It's "if you can do it, so can I.". It's a reminder that the pain is only temporary. It's a glimpse into their own future that allows them to see the light at the end of that stupid tunnel that is  filled with anger, resentment, confusion, betrayal, hurt and heartache. And that light is what everybody needs to see to get through it. They need you. They need me. They need us to tell them that it's going to be okay and mean it.

I have gone through the tunnel. I have been there twice. Through death and divorce.... And I am at the other side. I'm waving at you and I'm telling you....in time, it will be better. In time, you will look back on this and you will be someone else's light.

It is good to be the light at the end of the dark tunnel. It is good to be HOPE.

I shared all of my 'growing up' with a stranger yesterday.

Without knowing it, every time we do this, it mends us a little bit more.


  1. Good points. Very insightful. Love you

  2. From the stranger you sent the email to, I couldn't be more grateful for you reaching out to me. I have shared it with family and friends because it touched me more than I could say. Not only has it helped to give me hope that things really will be 'ok' at the end of this dark and twisted tunnel, it also reminds me that people are innately good and really do want to lift you up, give you hope, and love you.. even when they don't know you. That email will forever mean the world to me. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.


  3. very true on so many levels. love that you are so willing to share your heart and your journey with strangers. it truly does mend.